One of the hardest things for me personally is letting go of the urge to jump in to protect my daughter from all failure. I make mistakes, but I try to be mindful of my emotions and reactions to situations. This is an ongoing and constant work for me as a mom, too. It definitely doesn’t give me a free pass. How has your research and work on this topic influenced your relationship with your own 12-year-old daughter? When we become aware of our own unresolved needs and unmet expectations, we set our children free. When we allow ourselves to look within to better understand what’s triggering our reaction, we become much more grounded and accept our children and our situation as they are. It’s really about learning to tune into our children’s needs and who they are, while examining our own emotions, beliefs, values and assumptions. What is the essence of being a conscious parent? The New York-based clinical psychologist will be coming to Long Beach in early December for a three-day workshop entitled “Deconstructing Parenthood: The Conscious Way.” Shefali,” says our children mirror our forgotten selves and it is through our own emotional understanding and development that we can become more effective parents.
But first we need to better understand ourselves, says Shefali Tsabary, Ph.D., a mother and author of “The Conscious Parent” and “Out of Control, Why Disciplining Your Child Doesn’t Work…And What Will.” The international speaker, best known as “Dr. Through everyday interactions and ordinary moments, we have the opportunity to create a meaningful connection with our children and nurture a deep sense of resilience, tolerance and self-acceptance in them.
PHOTO COURTESY SHEFALI TSABARY, PH.D.īecoming a parent changes us in the most profound and irrevocable ways, and it is often our children who motivate and inspire us to grow into our best selves. Shefali Tsabary, Ph.D., pictured here with Oprah Winfrey in 2014, advises parents to look within so they can better connect with their children.
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